{"id":1669,"date":"2015-03-17T20:23:17","date_gmt":"2015-03-18T01:23:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.familydill.com\/wordpress\/?p=1669"},"modified":"2015-06-19T13:07:29","modified_gmt":"2015-06-19T18:07:29","slug":"whats-it-all-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.familydill.com\/wordpress\/2015\/03\/17\/whats-it-all-about\/","title":{"rendered":"What’s it all about?"},"content":{"rendered":"

This past weekend, I sat w<\/span>ith the potential future spouses<\/span>\/significant others <\/span>of Wartburg<\/span>, who came along to help their partners decided which Seminary might be the best one for them to enroll in. <\/span>Oh, h<\/span>ow well I recall my own spouse\u2019s<\/span>\/significant others<\/span> weekend.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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At Wartburg<\/span>, there are two times a year that they hold a Consider Your Call (CYC) weekend.  They invite potential students and their families to come and learn about Wartburg and what it has to offer.  Typically it starts on a Friday and ends on Sunday afternoon\/evening.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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When<\/span> I attended <\/span>the<\/span> CYC weekend, I cried<\/span> through the whole visit<\/span>.  I sat in the same <\/span>meeting. What I heard was, money is tight, <\/span>and student<\/span> insurance is so expensive you will have to go on <\/span>s<\/span>tate insurance<\/span>.  Oh and you will be using foo<\/span>d stamps and a food pantry.  My heart just sank even further.  What do you mean state insurance, food stamps and a food pantry?  I was a raised by a single parent who never had to do that, and I have two other siblings.<\/span> <\/span>This information did not make me feel very good about this \u201ccall<\/span>\u201d. <\/span> All I could hear was the negative side of things. <\/span> Oh and let\u2019s not forget, I was moving from somewhere I have lived my entire life, (Yes how boring that is) along<\/span> with selling my home and leaving <\/span>a job I enjoyed.<\/span> <\/span>Not <\/span>unlike <\/span>many others before me.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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So after that weekend, I believed this could never work. This wasn\u2019t for us as a family.<\/span> This was for single people.<\/span>  But by<\/span> that point it did not matter what I thought or believed we were going. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Now I myself have been on campus since March of 2012. As I mentioned earlier, the CYC weekend happens twice a year.  Usually they occur in<\/span> October<\/span> and again in March.<\/span>  I never wanted to participate; I was after all not the happiest<\/span> person on campus<\/span>. <\/span>I was also never asked to participate, s<\/span>o I was very shocked and surprised when I was<\/span> asked to join the group<\/span> for this past weekend’s<\/span> CYC<\/span> even<\/span>t<\/span>.<\/span> This is<\/span> a<\/span> time for the spouses\/significant others to get together and ask the questions that relate to them specifically<\/span>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Oh how my<\/span> wheels turned. This would be my chance to really let people know what it was like living here.  To let them know it\u2019s not all holding hands<\/span> and singing <\/span>K<\/span>umbaya<\/span> song<\/span>.  So I gladly agreed.  I remember thinking back to my weekend and what I needed that weekend.<\/span> <\/span>I walked up with another spouse to the \u201ccastle\u201d, and gathered in a room with two other spouses on campus.  The meeting was<\/span>n\u2019t<\/span> due to start for another 30 <\/span>minutes or so.  While speaking with the three ladies, I started to think about my CYC weekend.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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As I reflected on my past, I realized,<\/span> I received<\/span> help <\/span>with<\/span> accepting <\/span>this whole new world<\/span>.  I sought<\/span> professional<\/span> counseling, spoke with friends from back home, and spouses on campus<\/span> all of w<\/span>h<\/span>ich<\/span> helped me work through a lot of stuff.<\/span>  I\u2019m still receiving help with this next step in our journey. <\/span>Looking back,<\/span> I know <\/span>now what I needed back <\/span>then<\/span> however<\/span> I didn\u2019t know the<\/span>n what I needed. I hope that makes sense.<\/span> So do these new folks<\/span> know what they needed if anything?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Anyway, the new peopl<\/span>e arrived and we introduced ourselves<\/span>.  We had one spouse from every class year represented.  Well I should say, minus the internship year, those spouses are not on campus.  Each one <\/span>of us <\/span>had a chance to \u201cspeak\u201d.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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I<\/span>t was my turn, and all though I<\/span> don\u2019t have enough time or space to tell you the whole conversation, I can give <\/span>highlights<\/span>.<\/span>  I told them, there are a lot of tears, but there is<\/span> also<\/span> laughter. This is a whole new lifestyle, with many changes.<\/span> I didn\u2019t discuss the money aspect other than to say, we are all in the same financial situation. I did say you are <\/span>encouraged to seek things off campus, like a job or perusing your own career.<\/span> I encouraged reaching out and asking for help, to swallow that pride. <\/span>I confirmed that the best thing a spouse can do, is be the main support sys<\/span>tem, as their task is not an easy one<\/span>.<\/span> As a side bar, when I say main support, I\u2019m not speaking finically<\/span>. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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I did not <\/span>share the <\/span>ugly side to living on campus<\/span>. Yes, there are \u201cclicks\u201d. Yes there is an \u201cin-crowd\u201d. Yes there are \u201cfavorites\u201d. Yes there are even \u201cfake\u201d people.  There is a food pantry on campus, but it\u2019<\/span>s expired<\/span>, damage<\/span>d, <\/span>crushed<\/span>,<\/span> and<\/span> freezer burned items. None of which will kill you, but isn\u2019t all that fresh. <\/span>On the bright side you do appreciate the fresh food. Yes you can get some paper products and shampoo, all the \u201ccheap\u201d stuff.  Again, you walk away with a better understanding of what a food pantry really needs.  Yes<\/span>,<\/span> you can apply for food stamps, and state insurance. However, if you are employed like me, you may not qualify. We don\u2019t and I don\u2019<\/span>t make that much money, but in the states eyes I do.  This also helped me see that sometimes, it\u2019s the states fault, and people are better off not getting a job.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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But in the end, t<\/span>his journey is life changing <\/span>in<\/span> so many <\/span>positive <\/span>ways. Internship gave<\/span> me a glimpse of the future and senioritis is real, even for the spouse.<\/span> Everyone gets through this, some more<\/span> easily than others.  As mentioned earlier, I\u2019m still going through some stress and anxiety, as I await the \u201cfirst call\u201d acceptance. Not to mention waiting on opportunities for Doug to even interview.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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I think in the end the meeting went well, people asked questions and we provid<\/span>ed real answers, but with<\/span> a <\/span><\/a>positive twist. The ugly side can wait until they arrive, as each person is different. After all, we are all still human, no matter where you live. There is no perfect place here on earth, but how we deal with it, allows us to grow.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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