This blog is different from my last few blogs. But I didn’t realize how much this topic bothers me.<\/p>\n
When people ask me what my husband does, I always stop and think. Depending on who’s asking, my reply is typically, he’s a seminarian or he’s a pastor. I know, I know, I’m saying two different things depending on who I’m talking to.<\/p>\n
Why you ask? Well if I’m at work, I cannot share that Doug’s a student. That means once he’s done we move. At least that’s what an employers might say. Why promote someone who will move in the near future? They don’t care if I’m the “bread-winner” we stay in the area. They don’t ask those questions. They just hear “leaving” whether you said it or not. That’s why I say pastor, or nothing at all.<\/p>\n
Of course, outside of work activities, Doug is a student. No one assumes or asks questions. Okay, yes all our neighbors are too. So yes that helps. Yes, the church he interned at knew. This is how it works.<\/p>\n
But lately, when someone asks me; “what does your husband do?”. My reply is he’s a pastor. What happens next makes me giggle, and yet sad too. The response is “you’re a pastors wife?” The last person asked “so are you like really religious?” What does that even mean?<\/p>\n
Why yes, yes I am a pastors, (or soon to be), wife. Why is this so shocking? I don’t believe I act any differently than anyone else. I don’t dress any differently, or talk any differently than the average person. I listen to a wide range of music, I even enjoy alcoholic beverages from time to time. So tell me, what does a pastor’s wife look like? What do you envision when you think about a pastor’s wife.<\/p>\n
Does my husband’s occupation have to define who I am or who I should be? Does a doctors wife look or act a certain way? Does an electrician, farmer or teachers wife look or act a certain way? No! So why look odd at me?<\/p>\n
I don’t actually look religious, or act like a preachy nut job. But I do believe in God! I will partake in a bible study with you, and I will pray with you and for you, if that’s what you need. But I’m still human. I love my country music, along with pop, rock, new age, and even Christian hard rock, and Christian rock. I like my adult beverages, and “Walking Dead”, “Witches of East End”, and “the Middle” TV Shows and many more! I’m proud of my husbands choice. But seriously, I am me, just as you are you.<\/p>\n
Now after reading this, what does a pastor’s wife look like?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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